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for me a crush is just a person who stands out from the others. I don't want any relationship with them (friendly, romantic or anything)

Aesthetic or sensual attraction

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Hello I am aromantic and I was wondering if there was a term that applies to me better

• I very rarely have crushes or romantic attraction and it's very weak

• I want to be in a romantic or queer platonic relationship

• when i have a crush i am not interested in a romantic relationship or a queer platonic one

i dont think i fully understand what it is to be aromantic and i want to learn but the simple definition does nothing for me, i need to hear what it is like from an aro person themselves

Ok so I have updated what I identify with

All of the above minus androgyne.

I have come to terms with being a demiboy

I also identify with the sub labels

- cupioromantic (meaning I don’t feel romantic attraction but crave a romantic relationship)

-bellusexual (being asexual but still being interested in certain sexual/physically intimate actions without feeling the actual sexual attraction)

Ummm hi? My name is Sonny (pronounced sunny) and I use all pronouns with a preference of they/them.

And uh these are the flags I associate with

- ace

- aro

- non-binary

- androgyne

- trans

- aroace

Favorite pride memory?

Ok so as I’ve said before, I’ve never been to a pride parade or protest because I’m not exactly allowed to go, but I do quietly celebrate pride.

Last year, I was inspired by a video I saw to make a cactus sweater! Y’know cause ace/aro cactus! So that’s probably my favorite pride memory

When did I realize I wasn’t straight?

Well I suppose that’s a difficult question.

For the longest time I was convinced I would marry a man and have 5 kids. But as I learned more about the world I found terms that just felt better.

In 6th grade, I started out with saying I was bisexual because it was the first term I learned. I thought it was appropriate because I thought girls were really pretty which I thought meant I could fall in love with them. But I still never thought I could have sex with a women and I had kind just pushed out of my mind the fact that for kids I would “need” to have sex.

In the same year, I was introduced to romantic attraction terms and started going by Biromantic heterosexual. That lasted about three months when I was introduced to the term asexual.

I have identified as asexual since I was in middle school and have ever since.

I also started questioning my gender identity around this time but we’ll get back to that.

Now even though I had determined that I was ace, I still had it in my brain that I needed a romantic interest to appease the concept I grew up with.

So I jumped around between deciding who my “crush” would be. From a sweet femme person I admired to a girl that would become one of my best friends.

I tried as I might to love them the way they wanted me to. I tried so hard with putting romance behind every I love you.

But I just can’t.

I don’t feel that way.

I just don’t, no matter how I try.

And that’s okay. They accept me.

It was around the time I determined I was aro that I decided there was no point in denying that I didn’t feel like a girl.

I still don’t. I identified for awhile as androgyne because if my mom ever asked me about my gender it wouldn’t break her heart as much.

But recently I’ve determined I do like being associated with being a “girl”.

So I have decided to settle with the term Demiboy as of now.

He/they pronouns.

Ummm hi? My name is Sonny (pronounced sunny) and I use all pronouns with a preference of they/them.

And uh these are the flags I associate with

- ace

- aro

- non-binary

- androgyne

- trans

- aroace

Hello from your friendly neighborhood aromantic mom friend and I’m here to tell you about my aro realization for Aromantic week!

Ok so this will be poorly formatted and maybe a bit long.

Ok let’s begin!

I came to terms that I was aromantic a couple months ago though I identified as aro-spec for nearly a year before that.

I realized I was aro in probably a bad way.

For a little over a year, I had convinced myself that I had a crush on my friend who we will refer to as Eggroll.

Eggroll is a sweet girl, she truly is, but she is also obsessed with romance and love and touch and affection. This was something I had to come to terms with in the time of our “flirtationship”.

She was constantly reaching out for I love you’s, constantly in need of affection and live that I simply couldn’t provide. I tried my best, over and over, I forced myself to see a life with her, dates with her, dances, just sweet little moments.

But I just couldn’t get behind it.

This wasn’t the first time this had happened, throughout school, I found myself trying to find people that I found cute or even mildly liked but wasn’t overly close with and slot them into the all to important role of love interest that society insisted was normal for someone of my age.

But it just wasn’t.

And eventually I had to tell Eggroll how I felt.

She was also a bit codependent and a tad insensitive and didn’t listen while also being constantly but hurt if I ever told her I found something rude or was uncomfortable with something.

I told her, over text, one Wednesday, a really emotional day.

She understood, although she felt sad, she sprung right back to her feet by the next week and now is constantly “in love” with nearly every pretty girl she spots.

I’m happy for her, she’s happy for me.

And I get to be happy in my own skin, with a label that I love, that I can relate to.

My experience isn’t the same as everyone else’s but as someone who witnesses identify crises every week and has had many of their own, I am always open to helping anyone who needs it.

This mom friend is a mom friend to all and is here for anyone who need some help, support, and/or platonic or familial love.

I hope you’re having a great day

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I've seen a plethora of Jax HCs centered around on his sexuality And I wanted to put my own HC out in the ring for public eye Since the pilot dropped, I've always seen him as aromantic, jury's out for asexual, but he always struck me as aromantic The way he flirts and makes innuendos with everyone around him reminds me of how me and my friends(who are majority aroace) all make non-stop flirty or sexual jokes with each other And I'm pretty sure Jax has some sense of care for the other circus members in a way that he could see this as playing around with people "close" to him Or, flipped on it's head(and this one I lean more towards), his continuous flirting is him not accepting how he hasn't felt romantic attraction in the same way people or media describes it, Jax does seem to have some kind of problem with accepting the way he feels so him not accepting a concept like that as part of himself is possible Maybe I'm stretching it, or just projecting too hard, but I like my HC of Jax being a romance-repulsed aromantic, like me!

I made a post about a really small portion of the aromantic community who felt in love once in their life. Because an aromantic person feels no OR low romantic attraction, this means that even if it is just once we can still feel it and this should not be invalidated.

I opened my tumblr and there were two questions in my inbox, which is weird. I open it and see this:

I could make a post about why they're wrong and how ignorant this was. But they are so cowardly that they don't even let themselves be known after leaving such an unnecessary and stupid comment in the question box of a person who was just sharing an experience for a small group in a small community.

Yeah. I could, but I'm not going to worry about it. Anonymous, know that this didn't result in anything and you wasted your time. For those of you who fell in love and are part of the aroace community, you will continue to be one of us. Because aromantic is someone who feels little OR no romantic attraction. You can still feel this, it will just take time and it will probably only happen once.

In case you're wondering this is the post in question:

Kisses and hugs to all aromantic people out there.

There's this really, really small, almost non-existent moment in the aromantic comunity people where you realize that for the first time, you are in love. You smile silly, your heart does a strange jump when they talk to you, you really want to smile at everything they say and you can't stop looking at them.

I thought this only happened in books, but no, it's real.

As an aromantic person who is dealing with love for the first time, romantic people, how do I deal with this?

Help me, aromantics Kenobi, you’re my only hope

Hey, I have never actually used tumblr much in terms of actually like posting stuff but a friend told me talking to people about this would probably help and I thought well maybe someone can help me on tumblr after i looked at a lot of posts about the subject.

Here it goes I guess. I’m bisexual, I know this for a while now and it’s something about me that doesn’t confuse me anymore. And I thought that was it, like I have myself figured out I know all I need to know. Recently, I realised, I know jack shit. Yes, I’m bisexual. That’s easy. It was easy to label and identify when i accepted that I did not only wanted to kiss boys.

Here comes the problem, I’m not sure I want to fall in love with anyone. Or can, really. I had a few relationships, they ended, I ended them. I’m always very uncomfortable in romantic settings. It just takes a lot from me to act in love, I don’t think I have been in love actually. Looking at the relationships that I had they all feel a lot to me like friendships that fell apart when people wanted more of me.

I think I’m aromantic, is where I’m getting with this unnecessary rant. I think I confused close friendships with romantic things and fucked all to hell. But I’m not sure because feelings are stupid and I have a very difficult time grasping and describing them. And also, I’m pretty sure I’m not romantic repulsed. Like, couples and ships and all that, I love reading about, I love seeing on movies I think it’s very cute. I just don’t feel that? Maybe? Or maybe I feel but it’s very small? I don’t know. I’m confused, it’s the whole point of this.

This shit is getting too long and I’m feeling too exposed. Maybe I’ll delete this right after I post, I don’t know.

THE POINT IS can someone aro pls talk to me? I know it must be super annoying talking with someone who is very lost, but I think it would really help me and I would be very thankful. If anyone can help me, thank you a lot. If you can’t, it’s okay I totally get it. I’m researching all I can I just think maybe talking with someone will help me. I don’t know.

Fuck, maybe this was a bad idea.